Some experts say only thirty percent of communication comes from talking.
the world knows the ďOKĒ hand gesture, right?
†In many countries this gesture means: Ē SilenceĒ
There are many gestures we do every day without noticing what we are saying
†Here are some examples:
Don't do this or this
Donít cross your arms or legs
Ė You have probably already heard you shouldnít cross your
Have eye contact, but donít stare
Ė If there are several people you are talking to, give them
all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they
Donít be afraid to take up some space
Ė Taking up space by for example sitting or standing
Relax your shoulders Ė When
you feel tense itís easily winds up as tension in your shoulders.
Nod when they are talking
Ė nod once in a while to signal that you are listening.
6. Donít slouch, sit up straight Ė but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.
Lean, but not too much
Ė If you want to show that you are interested in what
someone is saying,
8. Smile and laugh Ė lighten up, donít take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But donít be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but donít keep a smile plastered on your face, youíll seem insincere.
Donít touch your face Ė it
might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners
10. Keep you head up - Donít keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.
11. Slow down a bit Ė this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, donít snap youíre neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.
Donít fidget (obs:1)
Ė try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous
ticks such as
Use your hands more confidently
Ė instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face
use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your
hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are
trying to make. But donít use them to much or it might become distracting.
14. Donít stand too close Ėone of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, donít invade it.
Mirror - Often when you get
along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection,
Keep a good attitude
but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude.
- Fidget = ficar irriquieto, mexer-se
de modo irriquieto ou mexer no rosto,nos cabelos, com uma caneta nas m„os...
OBS:2 - Flail = debater-se, malhar,flagelar (correr pelo ar como um chicote)