Body Talks
Some experts say only thirty percent of communication comes from talking. Everyone around
the world knows the “OK” hand gesture, right? |
In many countries this gesture means: ” Silence”
There are many gestures we do every day without noticing what we are saying
trough them.
Here are some examples:
Don't do this or this
1.
Don’t cross your arms or legs
– You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your
arms 2.
Have eye contact, but don’t stare
– If there are several people you are talking to, give them
all 3.
Don’t be afraid to take up some space
– Taking up space by for example sitting or standing 4.
Relax your shoulders – When
you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. 5.
Nod when they are talking
– nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. 6. Don’t slouch, sit up straight – but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner. 7.
Lean, but not too much
– If you want to show that you are interested in what
someone is saying, 8. Smile and laugh – lighten up, don’t take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don’t be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don’t keep a smile plastered on your face, you’ll seem insincere. 9.
Don’t touch your face – it
might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners 10. Keep you head up - Don’t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon. 11. Slow down a bit – this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don’t snap you’re neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead. 12.
Don’t fidget (obs:1)
– try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous
ticks such as 13.
Use your hands more confidently
– instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face
use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your
hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are
trying to make. But don’t use them to much or it might become distracting. 14. Don’t stand too close –one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don’t invade it. 15.
Mirror - Often when you get
along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, 16.
Keep a good attitude – last
but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. |
OBS:1
- Fidget = ficar irriquieto, mexer-se
de modo irriquieto ou mexer no rosto,nos cabelos, com uma caneta nas mãos...
Pronuncia-se "FIDJET"
OBS:2 - Flail = debater-se, malhar,flagelar (correr
pelo ar como um chicote)